Bugs and sickness and absence, oh my!
Okay, so I haven’t been around for far too long, and after my first week of making sure to follow my schedule of content, I failed the very next. Go figure. But, there have been a few things that have happened over that time frame, and so today I am here to fill you in on it all.
First and foremost, however, let me just say Happy Birthday ‘Murica, and Happy 4th of July to all! Today is a day where we need to remember that many lives have been lost to protect the freedoms we enjoy, that we still have a long way to go, and to spend time with friends and family and enjoy summer. Please no matter what you do today and tonight, please don’t drink and drive, it’s just not worth the risk. Also, if you live in an area where fireworks are allowed, like me, please be safe as well and use some common sense.
Now that we have the obligatory 4th of July stuff out of the way, let’s get to the meat of what’s been going on. Let’s start with Monday. A good friend of mine lost his mother suddenly the day after Father’s Day, to what the family believes to be a heart attack, and so Monday was the funeral. What I thought would be an early afternoon back to work, turned into a day of supporting him and his family not only by being present, but also by helping with their kids. Now, I wasn’t the one to be there to help directly, but my amazing wife was, and she didn’t get home until late that night. I spent the last couple of hours of the work day going through things remotely and trying to help out, and so Monday was shot.
Then Tuesday happened. Waking up in the morning to having to expel the content of my stomach was not the best way to wake, then having to sit on the toilet to clear out the rest, all to find out that this is apparently a bug that’s been spreading like wildfire from friends and their family. When you can’t get off the toilet, and don’t know when you will need to go back to it, not only does it make working hard, but it wipes you of energy. By the afternoon, I think I had a fever because I was cold in my house, when most days it’s pretty warm in the house, even though we keep the A/C cranked as cool as we can afford to. Hoodie and pj pants on, I knew something wasn’t right. By the end of that night, I was in bed by 8:00.
Guess what happened that night. Yup, it was my wife’s turn with the bug. Only it hit her much worse than it did me. She was up from about 2:00 am until 5:00 am, hung over the toilet, which meant I had to make sure Peach was able to get to sleep. Between the quarantine I set for myself knowing this bug was super spreadable, if that’s even the best way to say it, which I am sure it isn’t, and my wife now having the same bug, I knew I had to stay home and help out. So, I did. I still didn’t feel the best, but I did feel much better, and so I spent the day trying to work from home and helping out with taking care of Peach. So at this point not only have I missed my standard blog, but I’ve also missed my weigh in, and having had whatever I wanted Saturday through Monday, I knew the week was screwed anyways from the Slow Carb standpoint.
Getting through the rest of the week, I may have been able to squeeze a video in for Friday, but it would have been forced, which means it wouldn’t have been near as good as had I done proper planning.
Which brings us to today. It’s been a heck of a week, and with so much happening that would seem to slow you down and get in the way of life, make some people feel like a wasted week, there was one beautiful thing that did come from all of this. In my post about Date Night, I made mention that time spent with my daughter was not only amazing, but the benefits of doing so had residual effect for quite a while. Well, even under the worst circumstances, I got to spend some time with her again, and be the primary care-taker for her, and those same benefits are back, and that same residual effect is there. She comes to sit in my lap, snuggles with me at night, and lights up every time I come into the room where she is. She wants me over mom right now in a lot of cases. It’s the little things like that that make fatherhood so amazing. The little things that, and she doesn’t even know it, instill a confidence in me as a dad. When I first started thinking about starting this whole Geekin Dad thing, I didn’t know if I had the authority to start something like this because I was so unsure of myself as a father. But as I invest, with intent, and as I see the residual effects happening, I grow in the confidence in being her father every day. Now, when she doesn’t want hugs or kisses from me for whatever reason, I’m okay with that. A few months ago, it would hurt me a little each and every time. Through all of the sickness, the bug that’s spreading like wildfire, having to help and watch friends go through the loss of their mom, and trying to balance getting work done through all of it, that joy of watching my little Peach know that I am Dad and that I am Love for her, make what would be one of the toughest week of this year one of the best.
So, that’s been my week, in a nutshell. When has there been a time in your life when the world seems to be falling apart around you, but your kid(s), big or small, let you know that everything really is okay?